Like crepe paper


This morning I'm spending some time researching in preparation for a parenting workshop I am presenting in September. The concept of intentional parenting is very personal. I adamantly believe in shaping safe and accepting environments for children to develop, expanding the definition of discipline pass punishment, and of being present and available for our children. … Continue reading Like crepe paper

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Remembering Today


Thirteen years ago today I was where I spend a lot of time. Another training. My husband was where he spends a lot of time. Traveling for work. This time to Newark. Our 2 year old daughter was spending the day with my best friend. It's one of those days that I can pinpoint where … Continue reading Remembering Today

Grief and Sadness are regular companions of mine


Grief and Sadness are regular companions of mine. I don't fight them as hard anymore but I do wear a mask over them most days. If two's company then Grief and Sadness are a very accommodating crowd. I can experience a loss and process all those feelings but it amazes me how how the next loss, as … Continue reading Grief and Sadness are regular companions of mine

Two Themes from the Season Opener of Downton Abbey


I don't even know what to call myself. Am I an Abbeyess? Downtonian? Whatever you come up with I love the PBS series Downton Abbey. I love historical fiction, the fashions of the era, and pretty much all things "angophilian."  Season three we even dressed up and attended the premier party at the Missouri History … Continue reading Two Themes from the Season Opener of Downton Abbey

Mothers Day: A scar that strengthens the wound


My mother passed away when I was 12 and up until recently I really think I thought it would be something I would get over, that the emptiness would fade, that the hurt would disappear. I'm getting a better understanding that her death is part of my brokenness, it's a scar that strengthens the wound … Continue reading Mothers Day: A scar that strengthens the wound

My crisis of faith and why I’m struggling to understand


I'm struggling to understand. I recently told a friend I have an insatiable need for knowledge and experience. But times like this I wish I didn't have a need to understand. I've lost another family member to cancer. I prayed fervently for healing here and now. Not in heaven when it wouldn't be a miracle. … Continue reading My crisis of faith and why I’m struggling to understand

I’m Not There Yet


I can't put down words about the precious children lost at Sandy Hook in Newton, CT. So there is this until I get there. “to love life, to love it even when you have no stomach for it and everything you've held dear crumbles like burnt paper in your hands, your throat filled with the … Continue reading I’m Not There Yet

Why I Sleep With a Blankie


Hello.My name is Carissa.I'm 38 years old and I still sleep with a blankie. Did your mother say you can't take it to college?Well, my mother is not here so I did.Which is why I still sleep with a blankie most nights. And it's also why it's really hard for me not to say Mother's Day sucks. … Continue reading Why I Sleep With a Blankie

No time for ugly cries


We've all had those mornings when you're running around, trying to get breakfast made AND eaten, lunches made, permission slips signed, finding the backpacks, throwing in a load of laundry, loading up the dishwasher, getting kids out the door, etc. It's manic, it's crazy, and someone is always yelling whether it's me or the kids. … Continue reading No time for ugly cries